Stop coping. You just suck with women.

And like everyone who starts, that's okay.

If you consult Man Twitter for dating advice, you will get some longer version of the following list:

1. Get jacked - Girls like macho guys
2. Get loaded - Girls like rich guys
3. Be famous - Girls like guys with clout
4. Go abroad - Girls are different in other countries

I'm here to tell you that if you're not getting any girl attention, that's all bullshit. You may lack all these things, yes. But that isn't your real problem if girls are what you want. Your problem is that you don't know how to get women. You don't know where they are and how to talk to them in a man-to-woman way. You don't know how to set up a meet and you don't know how to guide her to your bed.

Game isn't the only thing that matters in life. But in getting women, getting better at it is your top priority. A man can have the entire list above, but if his game is shit, an enthusiastic lay is impossible. The women that want him at first sight will head for the exit the minute he opens his mouth. You'll be surprised how unremarkable your lifestyle can be with Game, than without it. If they're actually into you that night, or are just looking for available dick, women don't really care what your life is like.

Sucking at women isn't the end of the world. It's a skill like anything else. In order to improve, you'll have to practice talking to girls constantly, and talk to them just at the point of your discomfort. It's a lot of trial and error, and a lot of self-reflection. Only thinking that you're attractive won't cut it. Your body and mind need to actively change in order for you to get better at this. It's less like talk therapy and more like tennis. At first, you suck at tennis, then after you train, you can play tennis. Why is it obvious to everyone that the way to get muscles is several reps of progressive overload, but think that when it comes to girls, we only need to "think and get laid"? It's a skill. Treat it like one that you have to get better at every day.

And you're gonna suck hard. And that's okay. We've all been there. Every guy who's figured this shit out has been there. Every rejection. Every "almost had it". Every cringe moment. Every sexual hangup. Every time we were over-invested and needy. Every time we clutched defeat from the jaws of victory. We've all done it, and we've all been there. What makes you think you're any different? It'll be the same for you and for everyone else who tries. But that's a part of the process. There are no shortcuts and no skipping this step.

If you need help to systematize your dating or have something to fall back on whenever you get stuck, there are recipes or protocols you can use. I won't go into them in detail here, but the Mystery Method and the London Daygame Model are classics for a reason. If you got half decent photos of you with good lighting, you can start a profile on a dating app. The Mallardcove guide to Tinder and the KillYourInnerLoser guides are there to help you get started.

The other thing you need is logistics. Are you close to where more women are? Do you know any cheap hotels you can go where you can fuck girls? Can you afford a place long term? Do you have friends who could split the rent on a unit with you? Do you know all the bars and coffee shops nearby within walking or driving distance? On a first night, girls won't figure this out for you. You have to figure this out for yourself.

Eventually, if you're applying the principles and techniques correctly, you'll get to a point where talking to a girl and getting her where you want her is easier. You'll get to a point where you know throwing the system away makes sense. But at this point, you don't suck anymore. You're competent at getting women. And you did it by yourself, by working at it every day you can. But most importantly, you didn't cope. You recognized that you sucked with women at first and worked to get better at it. Then you can decide how the above part of your list makes sense.